My son turned 5 last week! I have learned a lot about motherhood since he’s been born and how to make it work (for me). These are the things I wish I knew before I became a mom.
- Self-care, self-care, self-care. Seriously. The more I take care of myself, the better I treat my kids. It’s a misconception that the *best moms* are burned out. Because, really, burn-out means that a mom is NOT at her best.
- Martyrdom has no place in motherhood. This one is really just a re-statement of the previous. I see many mothers *suffering* for her kids and her family. (I was one of them!). However, after my episode last year, I learned that this is NOT the way. As soon as I let myself off the hook for doing things while repeating the mantra: “I am Enough, I do Enough”, I did WAY more than I normally do – and I did everything with joy! I was nicer to my kids, my husband, and mostly myself! (And even if I didn’t *do* more, I still am enough!)
- They are not really *my kids*. They are God’s little people. I have merely been granted the beautiful opportunity to watch them grow up. Obviously, there are things that my husband and I do to help them understand boundaries, but not by controlling them. We try to teach them with a lot of compassion (instead of getting *mad at them* when they don't do what we think they should) This is extremely hard to do, by the way, without TONS of self-care. You really only have as much compassion as you show to yourself. (See 1 and 2)
- Get advice. Yes, we know our children better than anyone else. But sometimes a different perspective can really help you nail down your own perspective!
- Be present in every single moment. It is the most beautiful story you will ever experience.
Here is a video celebrating my big boy!